Triggers

So I was asked, how can we handle a situation when we feel like we are being personally attacked (Or business, family, etc)

And it’s a really great question and one I’ve really had to actively work on living with my in-laws, although some are direct attacks about things I do but the same principles do apply.

What’s really happening is our fight or flight response is kicking in and depending on our history and the situation those reactions can vary. They are primal, and based in the EGO mind.

What we have to learn and keep in mind is that, everyone’s coming to the situation with their own experience, beliefs etc. It doesn’t automatically make someone right or wrong just because it may differ from your own, it’s just different because of their own knowledge/experience base. If we can learn to look at things as a reflection of them and not an attack or reflection of us then we can move past the re-action instinct.

When we can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening. That’s where your power is. – Unknown

But when someone triggers something in us this is usually a good indicator of something that is not healed. The way we approach others shows those parts of ourselves that also are not healed within ourselves. Being critical, judgmental etc towards another says more about us than it does about them, it may not even be something we believe or value but something we were taught to believe.

Often enough

Our problem isn’t the problem. Our reaction is the problem. Buddha

And honestly I’ve experience this too; sometimes when

we expect something to go wrong or someone to say something we’re almost jinxing the situation because according to the law of attraction those though frequencies manifest into physical situations.

Well then how can we better move past such triggers? Well it’s hard to say really because every situation and individual is different, and because of all those variables it’s hard to say that something would work every time cause it won’t; But, you can train yourself to identify what those triggers and the feelings behind them are. It’s really a level of self awareness and mindfulness.

Stress Cycle

Triggers: What/who is your trigger

Lack: What is the lack that your feeling, something you’re insecure about ?

Fear: What is your biggest fear? How long have you had this fear? What other emotions does this fear bring up?

Anxiety:  We see the escalation of this stress cycle in the form of anxiety, which can look different for every individual, it may be panic attacks, OCD behaviors, bouts of, or chronic depression, nervous behavior, many different things.

Sabotage: What many don’t notice is the sabotaging behaviors they engage in when trying to just live our lives or when we try and implement changes.

This can come in the form of:

Procrastination
Chaos
Picking Fights
Numbing out
Being late or unorganized
Distract with tv, games, social media etc.
Making impulsive decisions or choices instead of being mindful

It can also just be reacting to the said trigger in a negative way thus fueling the cycle again.

Being able to identify those is a big first step into setting up a system to then move past and rise above.


This whole perspective is actually what my coaching program is based upon.

It’s a 6-month program that focuses on several areas of your life, actively identifying the underlying beliefs you have that are feeding into how your approaching things in life.

You can read more about this on my coaching page.

I am working to develop a group coaching with the same structure and lots of great tips for self-empowerment. If this interests you please reach out to me or join the waitlist.

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Some ways you can handle a trigger situation in the moment are:

Use a zinger, a positive snappy come back, that shows you won’t allow your power to be taken

These are some of my own:

  • Who hurt you, how can I help?
  • Opinions are not facts, facts are not attacks
  • Your beliefs don’t shape my reality
  • I am curious as to what qualifications or knowledge you possess to make such an educated statement (when something is very clearly only an opinion, or your aware you do possess more education on the subject matter)
  • What proof do you have to back up your claim?
  • I’m sorry you feel so insecure about your beliefs, that you have to attack my beliefs or I’m sorry you feel my beliefs are an attack on your own
  • Thank you for sharing, now I’m going to continue to live my life based upon my own beliefs and values, have a nice day.
  • Okay, thank you.
  • Say nothing, don’t give them the satisfaction
  • I’m not seeking your approval I have my own
  • I’m sorry did I say or do something that gave you the impression that I’m seeking your approval?

Great, aren’t they 😅 can you tell I’ve had my fair share.

Agree to disagree- sometimes people are just set in their own way, just agree to do your own thing, that works for you, judgment aside.

Avoidance – avoid the trigger situation completely, don’t react or act in any way, just walk away and ignore. The best option for when you can’t be objective or positive.

Like mama always said, “if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say a thing at all. ”

Best way to protect your own power is to not engage, the moment you engage even mentally is the moment they have the ability to steal your energy. Avoidance is often needed until you gain enough self-confidence but it shouldn’t be the final solution, that’s just creating a whole different problem, one that can be just as detrimental to self-growth.

Active “shadow” work is needed for all lightworkers, empathy and really everyone. Being able to identify the problem/trauma/trigger etc, and pick it apart to understand its root belief and hold over us is very key in our overall healing and ultimate raising of our vibration. For many this can be very difficult, I even know lightworkers who avoid their shadow work because the trigger causes such a heightened emotional sending them into anxiety or depression. But if you’re able to either by yourself or with a coach, therapist etc, work to understand that underlying causation, you start to really heal at the soul level.

I was asked what mantra can help, and honestly, you should find one that’s personal to you, but active chakra balancing, is a good place to start if you are unsure.

Being self-aware and confident in your beliefs is very important in dealing with anything or anyone that triggers you. Some people don’t mean to trigger you, but there are the few who act like bullies, and are intentionally trying to trigger you, and will even laugh and ask if you were triggered because they seek to steal your power and energy. Those are often the people we feel less prepared to deal with. But I’ll tell you what I hear and see when I see that behavior, I see someone more scared, insecure and unaware of themselves than even you can be. Their vibration and self-awareness is so low that they seek to drag others down just so they can have that surge of adrenaline, and serotonin, and feel good about themselves. But it doesn’t last, hence we see the bully, and often the drama queen, creating havoc in their path. Zingers can be effective with these people because you end up turning it back on them.

The idea is gaining control of yourself, not the situation.

Some food for thought

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Yes it takes some work to work through your triggers, to develop self-awareness and discipline but as they say, things worth doing aren’t easy; do what’s right not what’s easy, if it were easy everyone would do it.

Reacting is having all of your energy placed in your lowest root chakra, responding is having all of your energy balanced and approaching via the crown chakra. Take time to analyze and see where those eateries are being allocated. If you’re unsure or would like some help feel free to reach out.


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Namaste dear friends

I hope this will help you look at life and yourselves a little more objectively and start to identify when your energies are out of balance as well as those trigger situations.

Katrina

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Reassurance + Empowerment

There is something amazing and feel good when you get affirmation that you’re on the right path, what amplifies that is when you get that affirmation from God directly.

img_2375This was never something I thought possible as I was raised to believe that only a select few could literally interact with God but in freeing my mind from man’s illusions of spirituality, I found that God does indeed talk and interact with us constantly if you allow yourself to be aware of even the smallest shifts of energy, sound, smell etc. God truly is everywhere. With all that I’ve been doing lately I’m kind of in this gap between what I knew about spirituality and everything related including my relationship to and with God, and because it hasn’t been the same methods it felt almost like a disconnect from God. Because again, the way I was raised as well as my own notions regarding Christianity/ Spirituality was that in order to communicate or interact with God is has to be through prayer. But the more I grow in all facets I now know that there are other ways by which we are able to interact with God all just as ‘spiritual’ as prayer.

But I digress because I wanted to share a specific experience.

So in feeling what I thought was a level of disconnect or selfishness God gave me reassurance that I was unconsciously seeking. I was finishing up my day doing my nightly routines and heading to my bedroom to do some notes/journaling in bed, nothing, in particular, was on my mind, I was present in the moment and in a relaxed state. As I opened my bedroom door to go sit on my bed I had a strong whiff of fresh peaches and a feeling of warm white light pass through me.

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Pure white energy is directly associated with God/God consciousness; and as it turns out the aroma of peaches is said to be: “God Breathing forth the Mind of Christ. The Power of listening to and hearing, seeing, and doing the Mind of Christ. The colors associated represent many things including the Fire of the temple lampstand, which Lights up our Faith shield around us. This Shield is Jesus Mind Lighting our way. When the Lampstand of our mind is lit with the light of Christ’s thoughts, we can see Father’s Will. When we see with our hearts what Father God is doing, then we are EMPOWERED to do it as well.”

[if you wish to read the full quoted article click here ]

God truly is infinite power and wisdom and really does reveal himself in beautiful ways. Having reassurance from the highest being and energy source is beyond words and beyond anything else that could ever be said against you. Knowing that I’m continually progressing down the right path of both my calling and his brings immeasurable joy, that lights up the body mind and soul. I can feel that both my reflection of his light and that of my own, has grown stronger within the past few months. I’ve felt and experienced things I didn’t believe were possible at one point in my life, and that is a blessing in itself.

I hope and pray that you all are able to find your own soul path and pursue it, in whatever role God has you playing in his grand master plan, and receive the same reassurance from him.

Namasté all you beautiful souls ♥️✨

May his infinite wisdom and power continue to guide you

Eph 1:8-18 (eh the whole chapter is great)

With all wisdom and understanding, he made known to us the mystery of his will according to his good pleasure, which he purposed in Christ, 10 to be put into effect when the times reach their fulfillment—to bring unity to all things in heaven and on earth under Christ.11In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will, 12 in order that we, who were the first to put our hope in Christ, might be for the praise of his glory. 13And you also were included in Christ when you heard the message of truth, the gospel of your salvation. When you believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, 14 who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God’s possession—to the praise of his glory15For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all God’s people, 16I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. 17I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. 18I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people,

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Just a Phase

Hello I’m Katrina, and Welcome to “Just a Phase” Holistic Healing.

Holistic health is a topic close to my heart and soul, not only from being raised in a holistic home/practice but also along my own soul path. I bring with me years of knowledge from, being mentored by my mother (Dawn’s [W]holistic Nutrition) my own experiences and research, and several certification programs.

My Journey has been a long and complicated one and I will unfold and share it over time. 5CBBAFFE-7CFE-45E0-A105-214EEE3D2A4C

I embarked upon this path in hopes to help improve not only my own life, and those close to me but also others. At the start of 2018, my intention for the year was that of  Matthew 5:16 “Let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to the father of the heavens.” & “If you want to give light to others you have to glow yourself.” Thomas S Mason; Little did I know the depth of the journey I was about to embark on. I knew light and love were my calling, but I didn’t fully understand what that meant yet. Many things had been stuck in the back of my mind from previous experiences, such as reiki, reflexology, crystals etc, and once I started to look into them more the greater the urge became, and I knew I was being called to be a Light Worker.

What being a Light Worker to me means is, providing myself as a facilitator, to reflect the universal, shine my own, and raise others. It is my hope and goal to help those who are drawn to me to reach a higher level of light and love themselves.

I have decided to work by referral only, trusting in the divine to draw and direct those who need my gifts. Those who are searching for help, answers, and healing, are more receptive and are prepared to embark on their healing journey. If this is you Welcome, If you have some reserve, I’d love to talk with you.

The idea behind “Just A Phase” has some irony. First off being that its what my husband says to make fun of me, because he thinks I go through numerous, unproductive phases. He always views phases in the negative, but I do not. I am a Cancer, Ruled and Loved by the moon, My own cycle is that of the Red/Full moon, among many other related aspects of myself. Phases are both a positive and a negative. Some phases like sickness, that come and go are a good thing, whereas phases such as that of fertility, can be that of a wave, some relish the changes and some wallow. It’s all in the perspective.

I hope to inspire, and impart some words of wisdom to help you along your journey, and offer my services to you if you are in need.

If you are also a holistic healer of some fashion, please contact me and Join my Secret Facebook Group full of like-minded enlightened women.

NAMASTÉ